channel-a-go-go

3/24/26

Today's card pull asks us to remember that how our lives unfold is up to us and nobody else. How we live, what we do, everything we choose- that's an US thing. Sure, it's so kind and wonderful to be polite and include our significant others in our big decision making because if we are a unified TEAM, it's great to be a team player and give our significant other a vote to consider our trajectory. 

But what I'm really talking about is the bigger picture doing of what MOVES YOU, what speaks to you, what makes you come alive that might not be so popular, what shouts to you that you hear like a calling or is whispering to you day and night. Can you hear it? 

If you can't hear its whispers, maybe you can feel it and sense that something's missing from your life. Maybe you don't know yet what that something is but saying a hardy heck yes to figuring it out, opens the door wide enough to get some new possibility and positive energy flowing in to create some momentum. That little HECK YES is your ticket forward. 

Our yes works well when it's paired with positive intention, careful consideration, logical action steps, and doing the leg work needed to make a change in our trajectory. There's personal power that gets activated when we focus on our hopes, prayers, and wishes. Our faith and determination combine as a well-oiled motivational machine to create positive change like an added rocket boost once we get on board with a direction in which to head. 

We don't need to know all the hows or whats, or the outcome. We don't need to have it all figured out. We can hold on to how it is we'd like to feel and then see the way as it appears before us when we say yes. This becomes our invitation and privilege to trust our perfect pathway unfold as we stay in motion. Taking baby steps every day, we can lean in to our spirituality or our religiosity to help us along the way. 

But beyond our practice of faith or prayer, or whatever method of convening with a higher power we choose for supoprt, today's message is about trusting that we already have enough of that very Divine Creation energy within our selves to be able to own and access our own personal sovereignty.

With our own unique Source energy spark, we have the absolute supreme authority to creatively manage our selves and our preferences and choices, without any external validation, control, or input.

We can absolutely do or BE whoever we were born to be, unapologetically. And this unique kind of sacred sovereignty suggests that it is not necessary to submit any of our personal divine energy back to the divine, because respectfully, we are part of that divine energy to begin with.  

WE are OUR OWN AUTHORITY. And if we have given any of our power away to anyone else that keeps us controlled or disempowered, keeps us reeled in to be polite or submissive or to keep other people more comfortable, it's time to develop a healthy boundary and take back our personal entitlement to drive our own bus and be our selves, AS IS, like the works in process we all are.

There's a lot of buzz word talk out there about healthy boundaries and for years I knew about boundaries and couldn't seem to set any. It just baffled me as to why I couldn't and it made me feel weak and helpless. But I discovered that the roots of my inability laid in my own original story of my life. I grew up thinking that love meant that I needed to bend over backwards for the people I loved in order to help them, to fix whatever was wrong, and that somehow, I was responsible for making everything better. I had zero boundaries. Such a silly idea and responsibility to assign my young self! In retrospect and after yearssss of doing The Work to understand that all I ever needed to do was love someone, support them, and cheer them on if that felt good, but otherwise, I had to understand and accept that everything that had showed up for them was their journey, their story to work on, and not mine. Not my circus, not my monkey.

Sure, I absolutely helped my kids when they were young with all of their situations to make things better for them, but even now that they're adults, I have to dial my self back and remember that everything they go through is their learning opportunity, and their evolution. 

They have to do their own work and learn to stand on their own two feet and understand that they are powerful creators that can create their way through anything, just like all of us. And yes, I absolutely can cheer for them from the sidelines, offer advice, if I am asked, and encourage them that they're capable and remind them that they will find their own way, according to them and their operating systems. 

And it doesn't matter if we make mistakes along the way. We didn't come here with life operating manuals, so mistakes will be made and should be made, for making mistakes is value added. Mistakes teach us ways not to do things and teach us how to be resilient puzzle solvers to come up with solutions that do work. Mistakes help to build our own sense of self pride, confidence, and assuredness once we do find a successful solution. 

It's been my experience that healthy boundaries are also about SELF-RESPECT. I had some self-respect along the way, but as soon as someone played the family card, I would cave and give in to doing whatever they wanted and how they wanted to do it in order to keep the peace. As a lifelong people pleaser and peacekeeper, the lack of my own self-respect was a condition of my little kid survival skills that little me invented to always stay in favor to avoid the unpleasantries of not being in favor. 

Thankfully, there's a shelf life to how many years I could eat that shite sammich of doing things to please everyone and going along to keep the peace, while inside my body I was screaming silently, trying not to implode for having sold my self down the river another time. After an extended dose of family drama last year and exposure to very old and dysfunctional people pleasing habits, one day, I had enough. I had reached my limit and could NOT tolerate one more second of not standing in my own authority and power. So as a result, I CHOSE ME. I chose my self and what I wanted, but more importantly, I chose WHAT WAS RIGHT, not just for me, but for the situation that had presented itself like a catalyst FOR me to WAKE THE HECK UP. And awaken I did...kind of like THE KRACKEN...lol...but once I got a taste for that healthy boundary, better known as my own SELF RESPECT, it was a complete game changer. There was no going back. We're never putting that toothpaste back in the tube!

And as an added note, in no way, shape, or form, should the people in your camp be regularly imposing their will over you. There shouldn't be any laying of guilt over you like a smelly, wet, heavy, itchy wool blanket that you get stuck uncomfortably wearing to please someone. There should be no conditional love or kindness: as in if you aren't compliant with what they want you to do, then you will be ignored, rejected, or energetically penalized or disowned. Nope and hell nope. 

We can always respectfully agree to disagree. And newsflash: Nobody is right and nobody is wrong. Wait, what? Yes, I said it. Each one of us is an individual, created from a world of layered on imposed programs, experiences, and "trainings" that have shaped us into who we are today. Sure, they might want you to do such and such. Good for them. They can have that opinion and desire that outcome. That's what "right" looks like from their personal perspective. That's them being them. That's a THEM THING.

And then there's you. Standing there in your beautiful, unique, and amazing personal power, shaking your head, saying, um, yah, no. I think x, y, z, and that's my opinion...and that's because everybody has one! We are not required to be compliant, complicit, and make things smooth and agreeable so other people don't feel uncomfortable, get their feathers ruffled, or get bent out of shape. And hey, and if they do get bent, that is a THEM THING, not a you thing. Simple standing in our own power is not a crime, not worthy of punishment, or ostracization. Again, we agree to disagree. Save all that people pleasing for pleasing your own self. Write your own get out of jail free card.

And to be fair, it's good to not wield our newly found personal power like a diva and get all rolled up in our own power likes this is some big game. It's so not a game. We need to remember that we're all just being humyns who are growing up and simply learning and hopefully evolving. We're all doing the best we can with what we've got. This power of self-respect asks us to stand in our own authority like the sacred beings that we are and invites us to deliver our truth in a kind and compassionate way that doesn't compromise our values and our integrity, or make someone feel two inches big. Lording our personal power like a new weapon is full tilt the out of balance extreme, so be careful once you figure out what self-respect and personal authority are, that you treat these superpowers with respect as well. 

We are invited to look within, dear humyn. The empowered version of our true selves that we're seeking and the experience of the kind of inspired life we're longing for will come from within, once we say HECK YES to accept that WE ARE THE ONES WE HAVE BEEN WAITING FOR.